Dream Helper

Have you ever had this experience? You're having a dream that's distressing and you're having a hard time waking up. It's not exactly what you would call a nightmare. It's just that you're having a hard time waking up from this dream and you sort of drag yourself - you force yourself to wake up. 

It doesn't feel like forcing yourself but after you wake up you can feel it was a struggle. This usually happens when you only have that dream once - and the dream is strange. For example, sometimes it might just be that you were trying to clean something or there was something you had to do and it was a struggle but it's not what you would call a nightmare. 

Very often what's going on in this case is that you are, for that moment sharing somebody else's dream who is having a hard time waking up and that dream is bothering them. Perhaps it is a dream they often have or perhaps it is a memory of something that would trouble them but it is not troubling to you, though it may seem strange. What happens is, for a moment you share that dream and you - by your ability to wake up help them to wake up. 

These situations these days are more likely to happen because you are all being reminded that you are really literally one family. It is as if you are portions of one being and yet it is like a close family. 

Sometimes this family experience extends into places you wouldn't normally expect it to, such as dreamtime and as a result you have the opportunity to help out a fellow human being through a moment of discomfort. 

You probably do not know this person and you will probably never meet them but it is possible that you will have been around them briefly or have seen them at a distance and perhaps even felt compassion for them for some reason. And thus this compassion will allow you - it really is a favor that you do for someone else you see - it will allow you to help them through a troubling moment. 

You're not allowed by spirit and by your soul and by your guides and teachers to really engage with the person because they have a different path from you but you are allowed to help them out in this moment which may seem trifling to you but to them it is a burden and they appreciate so very much the ability of being able to wake up when this dream often goes on and on for them and it just gets more and more uncomfortable. 

So you see how you are helping each other out these days in ways that sometimes seem small but to others seem very large indeed. 

Goodlife

More On Compassion

Part 1:


Is thought really intended to insulate us from our feelings. Horace Walpole seemed to indicate that in this quote, "Life is a comedy for those who think... and a tragedy for those who feel." And yet perhaps even in his day people had forgotten how to interact with their own feelings.

As you all know, who have read these blogs, a great deal of what I'm trying to do here is teach how to interact with your own feelings and the feelings of others because that has everything to do with these times.

I recently got a question, which you may have seen on this blog, from Anonymous L* who at times is overwhelmed by feelings and compassion for all life and is wondering - is there something wrong with them. Or perhaps I might state, is there something that could be corrected in others.

I cannot comment directly on the urgency from Anonymous L's personal situation but what I can say is that I feel that once we all know how to work with our feelings - what they mean, and I'm talking about physical feelings here, and how they can bring us into greater understanding of all life around us and thus help us to connect with our natural native personalities that exist beyond this Earth plane as we know it - we will live better.

I do not wish to suggest that Horace Walpole was mistaken for I feel that even in our now times a great many people believe and/or practice thought instead of attempting to understand and interpret their feelings but I am hopeful that in my small way I may be able to contribute towards a greater understanding of feelings.


Part 2:


...And especially for Anonymous L and others who feel overwhelmed by compassion:

Sometimes compassion is from the outside in - meaning one has a sense of feeling heart towards another being who is suffering but other times especially when one is overwhelmed by the suffering of others or the perceived suffering as one might feel towards a planet one may very well be extending unconsciously from one's self to the other actually taking on their suffering for themselves and if they do that, though they may not actually feel the intensity of the pain, they would feel the urgency for relief.

So - given that I'd like to suggest something. If you are feeling overwhelmed with compassion and it is actually interfering with your life - stop for a moment.

This does not mean if you're driving a car stop in the middle of the road but if you are driving, carefully move over to the side of the road and park well off the highway for example or if you are performing some task that requires your absolute attention finish the task and then stop and go sit down someplace - you understand. In short, find someplace to sit down for a moment.

If it's daytime close your eyes and look up towards the sun. If it's nighttime you can glance towards the moon. The point is to redirect your attention towards a planetary body that is not suffering. Regardless of the impacts we may see in photographs of the moon I have felt the moon at a distance and I can tell the moon is at peace. I feel the same for the sun, for the sun often reaches out to bring its light elsewhere as we know.

My feeling is this concentrated effort allows you to separate yourself from taking on the feelings of others. This planet is a very difficult place at times - we all know that. One of the things we must allow however even though it may seem hard at first or even harsh is we must allow other people to have their feelings.

Sometimes when compassion gets the better of us - meaning we are not just feeling tender or feeling heart or love for those who are suffering but we are actually reaching into them unconsciously pulling out their feelings and feeling them - we might be preventing them from using their own feelings to make changes in their lives that may serve them better.

We know that this planet is a school for human beings and we also know that there are many times and challenges that make it difficult for other beings.

I do say this however, the feeling of compassion is often a valued thing and can help and guide others when taught gently if the others are open and receptive to it but if you are feeling overwhelmed by the feelings of others perhaps it might be best to let them have their feelings.

So at that moment try to look at something that is calm. If you cannot glance towards the sun with your eyes closed to protect your eyes or if you cannot see the moon then perhaps a large rock or boulder will do. Sometimes even a hillside, someplace that is natural - a part of nature but since many live in cities and do not always have that available such as a big old tree in a park - not a young tree but a big old tree then very often glancing towards the moon or even towards the sky on a cloudy day will help you to disconnect from taking on the feelings of others.

That's what I recommend. Goodlife.

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*Portions of Anonymous L's comment:

My Soul has created a condition of bi-polar mood disorder for my Being to deal with in this life...I am extremely sensitive to what I perceive as the suffering of the natural world (animals, plants, rocks, the planet, the trials and tribulations of people, and on & on.)

This creates strong feelings and a heavy emotional involvement that act as BIG distractions for me in my creation of what I need for a good life.

Can I somehow limit my emotional sensitivity? How can I over ride the 'wiring' of my soft- heartedness that may eventually be the cause of my material decline and my inability to create a livlihood and a joyous life?